Do men and women really differ that much?

An age old question which many people ask. Why is it that we think men and women differ that much? Are we really that different?

Let's go back to when you were still in the womb. I know...that's a looooong time ago. A growing fetus doesn't even have defined genitals until in a later stage. Men and women start at the same point. The Y and X in our chromosomes determine how our organs are going to grow, including that one. So actually...we all started from the same point. We were all the same, men and women.

Of course, after some time we start to differ from each other in growth, as we all know.
OK, but how about now?

If we look at emotions, women and men are different. This is because we tend to differ in what emotions we feel and when, but the most important difference is how we let the world know how we feel.
This has a lot to do with culture and common morals of how men and women should react to certain situations. Add to that personal feelings and you could say everyone would have different emotional reactions. I wouldn't say it's definitely to blame on being male or female.

Then there's also behaviour. This is also largely inherited from cultural differences, common morals and of course your own environment. I don't believe behaviour is that much reliant on whether you're female or male, but much more on who you are as a person.

Lastly we also have bodies. Of course we differ! (Yeah duh...) But I guess this stems from evolution. We are supposed to differ, because of what we do in life. Women have to give birth according to nature, so we have to have fat around our butts and big breasts to feed the children, so naturally this transforms us into the oh so known sand figure shape. Yeah, not alot of us look exactly like that, but you get my point.
And men are supposed to be strong to fight off whatever evil is going to harm their children and to bring food to the table by killing animals (LOL, old school pre BC. cavemen&women). Yes...our body shapes are still a remnant of old times, when we used to do nothing more than survive and produce offspring.

So yeah...we do differ alot...but then you have to wonder...is it bad?
I think it is actually a good thing that we differ alot. Why? Because our differences, combined, are strong. We're like Yin and Yang, we support each others weaknesses with our strong points.

I mean look at these examples:
Women talk alot, men are quiet (OK not all of them, but most of them).
 Women are sensitive and might cry or be frightened more often, men will provide the shoulder to find comfort.
Women are tactical, but might take a long time, men are straightforward, but fast.

OK I'm generalizing a bit here, but you get my point. We help each others weakness with our own strength.
Isn't that just wonderful? I think it is.

What do you think? With what do men and women differ? Do you have your own Yin & Yang? Leave a comment and share it!

S.P. van der Lee

Infinite?

 Hi guys and girls!

Well I haven't been writing much lately, I know. It's been like what...2 weeks?
Anyway, I have been sick for the past couple of days, actually the entire last week and it was really the worst thing that could happen, because I just started my new semester at school and I missed all of the schooldays..
The reason was that I had a 39.7 (!) fever and a harsh cold on the chest, which put me in bed/on the couch for nearly the entire day..
I guess that was my in-between-internship-and-school vacation...although not quite enjoyable.

Now that's been said, I have had some time to think about certain stuff, like we all do.
And here's an uncommon question for you.

We live in this big universe, of which the boundaries are not yet known to mankind.
I often wonder: what lies beyond? Does it ever stop? And if so, what lies beyond the galaxy?
Some say it is infinite, but..what exactly is infinite? Something cannot go on forever, can it? I've never heard of anything that goes on forever...

 Sometimes I think: this galaxy is big, but maybe it ends somewhere. what if our universe is entirely in some kind of glass globe, somewhere on some giant's table which is then in an even bigger galaxy?
How big is the universe actually? It's just mind boggling thinking about it...

That's something we cannot answer at this point in time and probably not until the extinction of man...but still it's a very fun thing to think about!

Want to share your idea of "What is beyond the universe"? Let your creativity loose on the subject and post it here in a comment!

S.P. van der Lee

Curiousity for people

In my daily life I meet up with a lot of different people. Sometimes I meet them at work, sometimes at school, you even walk, bike or drive past them during a trip. We see people all around us.
Often I find myself looking at them, trying to figure out who they are, what they do. I am interested in knowing why they wear what they wear, why they do what they do. My mind wonders off to think what their life would be like.

You can tell a lot by just looking at the way they walk, if it’s insecure or sturdy. How they dress, if it looks trendy or Goth, sloppy or chic. Whether they frown or smile, you can tell if it’s fake or real. I think to myself: gosh, if only I knew what they thought.

It’s actually pretty normal to look at people and think about them. A lot of us do. It’s normal to want to compare yourself to the rest of the world. We are all curious, it’s in our nature. We are curious for everything we come across, we are a species that “wants to know things”. To be able to evolve, we need to know things, so it’s only natural.

 I know a lot of people think it’s important what other people think about them and we tend to want to adjust to that. A lot of us are insecure. But…don’t we all look at each other? Even if only for the reason I described above? Curiosity?

So everyone looks at other people and many of us feel judged. Why is that? Since we look at others too. It’s like saying “I don’t want you to look at me and judge me!” while you’re looking at and judging your neighbour.

From this you can draw the conclusion that judging and being judged is absolutely normal and not actually something to feel threatened by.
Do we actually look at someone and think: ‘You are dressed wrong! I will judge you and I never want to work with you/speak to you/anything else again.’ No, a lot of us don’t.
And honestly, those who do, don’t you think they are very narrow minded if they judge you based on how you dress or look? Do you even feel the need to be around these kind of people? I don’t.

The reality is: you can never please everyone. Like I said in my last post, we are all different people, we all like and dislike different things.
The important thing to remember is that you are unique, just like everyone else. When someone judges you, take it as their opinion, not something that is written in stone.

Only you know the real you and that’s all that matters, because it’s your life. You will live with you until the end, not the judger. So the only thing that really matters is what YOU think matters.

Love yourself x2!

S.P. van der Lee